Children's Self-esteem

Self-esteem is what people think about themselves - regardless of whether they value - and if family members have self-respect, pride, and belief in himself, that high self-esteem makes it possible, with the everyday problems or grow. Successful communication begins with the education of children, that they belong and be loved for no other reason than just because they exist. By touching and tone of parents say their children, whether they value, special, and loved, and it is these messages that the basis for the child's self-esteem. When children grow up with much love and feeling lovable despite their faults and failures, they are able to interact with others in a responsible, honest and loving way. A healthy self-esteem is a resource for coping when difficulties arise, so it is easier to see a problem as a temporary, manage, and something from which the individual can arise. However, if children grow up without Hove and feelings without self-esteem, they feel worthless and unlovable, and expect that betrayed, taken, and looked to the other. Ultimately, their actions invite this treatment and their self-injurious behavior is the expectations into reality. You do not have the personal resources to cope with everyday problems in a healthy way, and life can be only one crisis after another. Without a healthy self-esteem, they can cope with the problems by not talking or by withdrawing and remaining indifferent to himself and others. These people live, grow up to be isolated, lonely life without the possibility of love, they never receive. Self-esteem is a kind of energy, and if it is high, people feel like they can do everything. It is what one feels when special things are happening and everything is great. A word of praise, a smile, a good grade on a report card, or something that in itself can be proud of this energy. If feelings about the self-understanding have been threatened and self-esteem is low, everything will be more trouble. It's hard to hear, see or think clearly, and others seem rude, ruthless and hard. The problem is not with others, it is with himself, but often it is not until energies are back to normal, that the real problem is detected. Children need help, that their self-confidence and self esteem with which they have a direct impact on each other. For example, a little girl from school comes home and says: "I need loving 'Cause my feelings hurt did today. "The mother carries her child and to be loved. If instead the mother said she was too busy to handle the small girls, the result would have been different. The child's self-esteem is completely dependent on the family, and it is not the time until the child is in school, the outside forces to feelings about the self. A child must also learn that an important resource for a healthy self-esteem comes within. Some parents teach their children to depend on external, rather than internal reinforcement through practices such as payment for good grades on report cards or exchange of special privileges for good behavior. The child learns to rely on others to provide a high self-esteem and is not willing to live in a world in which the desirable behavior is not automatically a tangible reward such as a smile, money, or special privileges. Maintaining a healthy self-esteem challenge that continues throughout life. One family found that they help each other identify a positive attitude. One evening during an electrical storm of the family around the table, and each person has two things they liked about each family member. These pieces were made of paper and folded to the appropriate person, who one after another opened their special messages. The father later commented: "It was an experience, opening up every piece of paper and read the message. I still have the gifts, and if I had a really bad day, I did it and I always feel better off." The basis of a healthy family, depends on the ability of parents to messages of love, trust and self-esteem to each child. This is the basis on which self-respect, and as the child grows, self-esteem changes from a collection of other people's feelings about personal views about the self. Ultimately a person's self-esteem is in the way he or she interacts with others.